To Be A Clever Bitch or Naive Wretch???

Had dinner with old colleagues from the previous company I worked for on Friday night.

"Oh, Peter is moving back to Switzerland& it seems he's getting married with Miss C. " said Q.

It's just one of the update news among the table at that evening, but somehow this "headline" occupied my mind for the whole weekend. Probably it's because Tom's currently at business trip, I have no where to EXPLODE my thoughts.....

Miss C was assigned to my team as a trainee when she just started at the company.
She was born in Shangzhen but she always told people she is from HK.
( Although from my point of view, I don't see the point of pretending being a HongKongnese instead... It's actuallyNo better or worse .... >__< )

From the surface she seems nice and easy-going but not for too long I realized actually she only talked to people who worth something or at least she thought they have the value she could make a use. ( guess she had to talk to me because I was assigned to train her to certain extend...., so we both got no choices I guess... )

I'm not a big fan of girls from mainland China. No offence, it's just by accident most of them I met just not my cup of tea. As everybody knows, me, silly me who value my time damn seriously, really don't bother to waste my life on people I actually don't like, especially for those people who has totally opposite value of life. I rather spend those time on people who are poor financially but with rich soul.

As far as I remember, she questioned me a lot but 99% of questions related to:
- how can I get the chance to travel to all those countries like you did?
-how can I do this and do that and make the company paid?
-why you know those BIG guys?
- how can I get to know all those managers?
- how did I manage to date a Swiss guy like you...?
-Is he rich? How did he meet his wife? How is his wife( asian) like?
- who has the power?Who has the final say?
- what is the shortcut to....?
- where can I...
-...
- etc

In a summary, she asked me anything related to "How to GET UP THERE within a short time" but nothing about the business itself whatever our team were doing. How&what to do her job well- was completely NOT at her interest.

After a while, I stopped teaching her with my heart or giving her any small tasks since she showed no interests and gave me attitude of " fine, you can give me some jobs but you're responsible for any mistakes I make. Don't expect me to do those small things, I'm supposed to do something BIG-like to get a Swiss/or whoever rich... I don't care what jobs you give me! "

Before I left the company, I was too honest& I advised her to forget about being marine underwriter if she wants a shortcut because there is no shortcut for being good marine underwriter. You'll need to work& study very hard, NO short-up, period!!
( Apparently she doesn't care about being whatever damn marine underwriter. All she cares was the shortcut to become RICH or to marry to THE RICH. )

Few months later after I left the company, I heard she got transferred to the "Hot" team and she was seeing a Swiss guy who has a certain position in the company.
Another few months later, they're getting married.

It could be a nice love story at the end but somehow I just feel... it's ugly.

I have a few girl-friends whose stories are totally opposite.

A bloody poor example K, who is sweet, caring, pretty but super naive. She has pure soul and super good heart but always got cheated by her boyfriends and even girlfriends.

I start wondering:

Who is right? What is wrong ? then Where does it go wrong?!!

I always think those tricky Chinese or Thai women who strategically get men into their trap are super ugly, but as a result, they all get what they want and as matter of fact they all work hard in order to get those men into their trap. What's wrong with that? Says who everybody should get married because of love or pure romance? so what if they marry to the money ?!!

If Miss C aimed to leave China and live in Switzerland with anyone she can gets and she did work so hard on that aim. As a result she got a cute rich man into her trap and she might do love him at the end. Who cares about the initial purpose of their relationship?!!

As to the other example-good girl K, being a great women with great personality and interesting hobbies. She is even a lot prettier comparing to Miss C. She believes in true love so she waits and waits... but so far with no luck. ( In fact, she has super bad luck! ) Say if she should learn from this Miss C being clever and always set up targets and strategies and only go for the aim already planned, instead not always like me listen to our own voice follow our heart...

Maybe then she wouldn't have always got hurt and cheated??!!

In a way, those Chinese/Thai girls are actually the CLEVER ones?!! They actually do the RIGHT things??? and my those naive&nice girlfriends are in fact STUPID????!!!!

So, being UGLY?! Or being hurt all the time?!!
Follow your heart or follow your brain and follow the CASH$$$ ?!!!

Lucky me I has never been ugly, I always follow my heart , so I used to get bloody hurt&cheated but luckily now I am very happy.

BUT What if they are right about "not everyone is lucky enough to meet the right person just follow their heart- which is what I always tell my friends to keep their faith of"

To Be A Clever Bitch or a Naive Wretch???

Who has the answer?????????
Or maybe there is no answer for this.................